Wednesday, January 21, 2015

A quarrelsome wife

I was reading today's Proverb and thought I should share these two verses. 

Proverbs 21:9, 19 NLT

(9) It’s better to live alone in the corner of an attic than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home. 
(19) It’s better to live alone in the desert than with a quarrelsome, complaining wife.

I think God is trying to tell us something and if He feels the need to say it twice in one Proverb, we must need to really hear it. We are not our husband's conscience nor are we his mother, so let's not act like it. Let's make certain we are encouraging, not criticizing. Let's make sure we are letting him be who God created him to be, not trying to make him into our twin. Our husbands have their own ways of doing things and that's okay; not everything has to be done just the way WE want it. I pray we are not quarrelsome or complaining wives.


Monday, January 19, 2015

Being a Godly Wife

A couple weeks ago I started a Facebook group for the Christian wives I know, a group to encourage each other in being godly wives. The group is doing great and we are learning what scripture says to wives and how to apply it in practical ways. I thought I might just start copying some of those posts to my blog and maybe encourage some of you to strengthen your marriages. So, here ya go-

I think it is very important for us to realize and remember that Satan does not want our marriages to work. He wants to destroy our families. We cannot let him; we must do everything in our power to keep our marriages strong, they are the backbones of our families. We are in a war and to be passive and do nothing means defeat, we must fight - we must actively work on our marriages.
"Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might. Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil. For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places." Ephesians 6:10-12


Tuesday, December 23, 2014

Preparing for Christmas All Year

This year for Christmas I did very little planning ahead, perhaps none at all. I want to do better next year. 

I think I could put more thought and effort into each gift if I started much earlier. I think I could save money by watching sales or making more presents. I think my husband would be happy if I didn't spend so much money all at once. I think I would enjoy more of the Christmas season if I had most of the shopping done ahead of time. I think I would have more time to bake cookies and candy with my children to take to our neighbors. I just think it's a good idea to start much, MUCH earlier.

There's one problem. Okay two.

One, it kind of overwhelms me trying to figure out exactly how to start planning for Christmas in January.

Two, I'm a procrastinator.

I can overcome number two, I am getting better in this area.

About number one, you can help me.

How do you plan ahead? 

How do you plan gifts yet make it something that person won't buy between now and Christmas?

How do you handle the people you draw names for when your family doesn't draw names until thanksgiving?

How do you keep track of what you have for whom?

I would love to hear your ideas for planning ahead.

 I really am determined to do something each month, starting in January, to prepare for Christmas next year. I've already been pinning ideas for crafts and Christmas ideas.

I'm looking forward to hearing your suggestions!

 I plan to do posts sharing how I'm planning ahead each month, so that, maybe, I can encourage others to make the most of their Christmas as well.


Tuesday, December 16, 2014

Getting Back to Whole Foods

I've realized over the last year that while I have been eating healthy, losing weight and feeling great, my family has not.

My family does not enjoy the Trim Healthy Mama food near as much as I do and to be perfectly honest, I don't even enjoy most of the baked goods. I have no problem fixing dinner and lunch meals THM style and my whole family enjoying them but breakfast and baked goods are a whole different story.

I say this to my shame, but I'm going to admit it anyway. I got so caught up in how well the plan was working for me and trying to get them on board, that I totally lost sight of their desires and needs. I stopped baking bread because even though it was fresh ground whole wheat flour and honey was the sweetener, it wasn't on plan. I started buying low carb store bread. I stopped making pancakes and waffles using fresh ground flour and farm fresh eggs and they ate cereal while I had an on plan breakfast. I stopped making sweet tea using raw sugar because I was too weak to resist it, so they went for kool aid and pop. I stopped making snacks using wholesome ingredients because I lacked self control, so they bought chips and dip.

How did I let that happen? 

Honestly, the only thing I can come up with is selfishness. I traded my desires for my family's. I didn't do it intentionally, but I did it just the same. I've repented and I've determined to make it right and not do it again.

Yes, the Trim Healthy Mama plan works great - for me. But not for my family. If your family enjoys those foods, awesome! For me, I need to get back to making sure my family is eating nutritious, whole foods and not focus so much on myself. 

I still follow some of the guidelines of the plan, but I'm learning how to adapt it to my family. I still recommend the plan to others, I learned a lot from it and it does work. However, now I caution them in a few areas. 

I really am thankful I followed Trim Healthy Mama, it detoxed my body and I learned what healthy feels like. I beat my sugar addiction and I learned how negatively certain foods effect my body. Yes, I lost weight and I've kept it off over a year. I'm very thankful for THM. But now, I'm going to learn how to incorporate what I've learned with a whole foods diet and get my family back on track. 

I've learned that I need to work on self discipline and self control to truly become healthy. Just substituting sugar free, alternative flour foods does not teach me self control. It just makes me think I can eat more because it's "good" for me. I NEED to take control and learn those biblical qualities to truly be healthy.

I hope that by being completely honest with you about my failures in this area that someone will be encouraged and helped by it.

Blessings my friends,